It was unsettling this morning watching a Today Show report on young girls posting to YouTube asking – Am I Pretty or Am I Ugly.
I wanted to seek out every young girl on YouTube who posted one of these videos and tell them what I know about pretty!
First I would tell them that they are pretty, and it will NEVER matter what someone says or thinks about their looks. Pretty is much more than long hair, short hair, blonde hair, red hair, big lips, small lips, blue eyes or brown eyes or any of those things.
Pretty is smart! It is the girl who studies science, math, English, music, history, art and discovering those thing that sparks her interests and helps her discover her passion in her life. Smart is reading and learning and listening and sharing ideas. You will never see a box on a college application, employment application, on your drivers license, passport or any other important application in your life to check a box for pretty.
Pretty is brave! Pretty is knowing that when someone is being bullied for being different they speak up and say bullying is wrong and sharing the good they see in others. It is comforting those who have been wronged and showing compassion and love for others.Brave is knowing when someone bully’s another person it is about them (the bully) and their lack of self-esteem and insecurity and not about the person being bullied.
Pretty is confidence! Pretty is knowing that who they are is wonderful and that their presence in this world is a beautiful miracle. Confidence is knowing deep in inside that you are special and wonderful and that people will always be drawn and attracted to you because your confidence shines through.
Pretty is making a difference! it is knowing that every girl is empowered and powerful, her body, mind, soul and heart are her very own and can shape their own world by believing in herself. It is showing those girls around her that they too are pretty by being themselves and they will not let other people define them. It is knowing that being different is wonderful and very cool and fun!
Pretty is knowing that what other people think about them is none of their business. It only matters what you think about yourself and how you choose to engage in your own world.
The prettiest girls I have ever known were tall, were short, had big noses, had small noses, some were shy and some were loud, some made me laugh and some made me cry, some were skinny and some were not,! What I do know is that what made them pretty is they cared about other people, they were smart, they asked lots of questions and shared great ideas and challenged me to think about my role for making our world better for every girl!
You are PRETTY and you are the only one that needs to know it!!!